Friday, August 2, 2013

Michelle's Eulogy (I was too sad to post when she passed)



My thoughts about Boston Minuteman Council’s First Family of Scouting, words cannot express my sorrow for your loss. Scouting in Boston Minuteman was better because of Michelle. She brightened the life of every Scout she helped. Being a camp director isn’t easy. It requires long hours, tough decisions, silly skits, personal sacrifice, and great support. 

My practical and spiritual observation does not permit me to believe she is truly gone. In fact, quite the opposite, she made an indelible impression on each of us. That impression becomes part of us. You see, Scouting lives primarily through oral tradition. There are countless examples of generational traditions passed from one Scouter to another, stories told around the campfire, roundtables, training programs, ceremonies, and legacies that still teach. I earned my Environmental Science merit badge from Buell Fuller, spoke with Howie about my decision to join the profession, and I pass along “camp director wisdom” to Nikki that was passed on to me, that originated from Tony Toto. In these ways our past leaders are always with us. 

Michelle has helped countless Scouts and guided hundreds of Cub leaders and parents. Her impact on the Scouting community has only just begun. 20 years from now a Cub Camp Director will strive to run camp “as well as Michelle Theberge did.” It’s more than a legacy, it’s a living breathing spirit that continues to guide and inspire Scouters. 
But Michelle is so much more than a great camp director. She is a great wife and mother. Let’s think about her and Ray for a moment. Here we have two wonderfully talented, hard-working, deep feeling, and charismatic leaders.  They are a couple that make marriage look easy. Ray gives to Scouting while Michelle supports, later that same day Michelle takes the lead while Ray supports her. It’s a dance that transcends ego. Each is visibly proud of the others accomplishments. Not because of what the other did – but because of what the other gave.
Giving is a significant part of Michelle. In fact it’s a significant part of the entire Theberge family. Jon, Cece and Luke are clearly their mom’s children. At such a young age they each exhibit her grace and sunny disposition. As camp staffers and the children of the Scout Master they learn quickly to give of themselves and to share their parents with the rest of the camp staff or the troop. This is never easy. Teens often want (and need) to distance themselves from their parents. However, to get a real sense of these kids - watch how they interact with each other and their peers.  They exhibit leadership and a genuine care for each other. Not the type of leadership that comes from barking orders, they show their servant leadership.
And that’s Michelle living through her children. She knew that leadership wasn’t about being in charge – well, sometimes she liked to be in charge. I guess that’s part of the human condition. But, it’s always easy to see that her desire to accomplish, achieve or strive to run a better camp comes from a pure altruistic place.
In Scouting it’s true that you shouldn’t need to wear your uniform for people to know you are a scout, people should know it by how you act. Let’s go back to the human condition – the need to be in charge – and let’s think about the wonderful balance that she and Ray exhibit through their marriage. The only way two people, under the same roof,  with such talent and drive, don’t allow their egos to clash is by allowing the Grace of God to flow through them.   
In some faith traditions during the “baptism” in addition to being dedicated to the church the congregation dedicates itself – all the individuals – to the child. In this way all the parishioners are bound to the welfare of the baby. They all become a community of parents. This gives license for experienced moms to offer help to new moms, and for every parent to enforce commonly held rules and behaviors. It is the oral tradition. This idea of working together for the common good of all the children was something Michelle showed us every day. This is what drives the success of Girl Scout Troop 74107, Camp Massasoit and the entire Theberge family.   
Michelle allowed God to flow through her and into each one of us. She is alive in each of us. And as such we are bound to each other, as community parents, and we are bound Jon, Cece, Luke and Ray
My love, prayers and gratitude are with your whole family today and every day.
Amen

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